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NEW YORK (AP) -- We've already seen the baby pictures -- now see the photo of Angelina Jolie apparently breastfeeding on the cover of W magazine.

On the cover of the new W, Angelina Jolie is apparently shown breastfeeding one of the couple's newborn twins.

On the cover of the new W, Angelina Jolie is apparently shown breastfeeding one of the couple's newborn twins.

Jolie appears on the cover of the W's November issue in a sleeveless top, which has been opened to reveal part of her left breast and a tiny hand ostensibly belonging to one of her twins, Knox Leon and Vivienne Marcheline, who were born in July.

The black-and-white photo shows Jolie smiling, her long brown hair cascading over her shoulder. The cover headline promises exclusive "private photos" of the 33-year-old actress by her partner Brad Pitt.

Jolie last caused a stir when she wore a white nursing bra underneath her tank top on the cover of People magazine after she and Pitt welcomed daughter Shiloh, now 2 years old.

Another breast-feeding cover that got people talking was in the summer of 2006, when Babytalk magazine published a photo of a baby and part of a woman's breast in profile. The magazine conducted a poll of more than 4,000 readers; a quarter of responses were negative, finding the photo inappropriate.

La Leche League International, the world's oldest breast-feeding support organization, applauds Jolie's apparent decision to be photographed nursing.


"Breast-feeding in public reveals a whole lot less than what has been revealed on the red carpet. ... I think we do need more role models like Angelina Jolie willing to be photographed and say, 'Hey look, it can be done, it oughta be done,' " said La Leche spokeswoman Jane Crouse.

Besides Shiloh and the twins, Pitt and Jolie also are parents to three adopted children: Maddox, 7, from Cambodia; Pax, 4, from Vietnam; Zahara, 3, from Ethiopia.

Exclusive photos of the Jolie-Pitt clan have fetched millions of dollars. Last summer, People magazine and the British tabloid Hello! paid $14 million in a joint deal to publish the first shots of the family with newborn Knox and Vivienne. Jolie and Pitt allowed such access in exchange for a donation to charity.

Jolie, who won a supporting actress Academy Award for 1999's "Girl, Interrupted," has drawn Oscar buzz for Clint Eastwood's missing-child drama "Changeling," slated for release October 24.

Pitt portrays a fitness club dimwit in Joel and Ethan Coen's recent comedy "Burn After Reading," co-starring George Clooney, John Malkovich and Frances McDormand.

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Beyond Botox

US News 2008. 10. 9. 22:48
Y RACHEL HERSCHENFELD, M.D. - DERMATOLOGIST

Beauty writing is not known for its critical appraisals of current products and procedures. It's always possible to find a glowing review of the latest, greatest trend; it's far harder to find balanced discussions of their pros and cons. Even tried and true procedures have drawbacks and need improvement. Case in point: Botox. The first injectable muscle relaxer approved by the FDA for the treatment of facial lines and wrinkles is the most common non-invasive cosmetic procedure performed in the United States, with more than 4.6 million Botox procedures completed in 2007 (data from the American Society of Plastic Surgeons). Botox is safe, effective and relatively easy to administer (although it takes practice to perfect injection techniques), and it is widely available. However, it is not a perfect treatment (close, but just not quite). Anyone who has been treated with Botox knows that it is administered through a series of tiny injections and takes several days and sometimes up to two weeks to see the effects. Botox also doesn't last forever -- in fact, a typical treatment lasts for three to four months before another treatment is necessary to maintain an improved appearance. Moreover, there are some patients who don't respond well to Botox and don't see much improvement.
Despite these drawbacks, Botox has been a wildly successful product. This success has spurred the development of many potential competitors, some of which may offer advantages over Botox. Manufactured by Allergan, Botox is one of several brands of botulinum toxin subtype A, which all work by temporarily interrupting communication between nerves and muscles, thereby leading to relaxation of wrinkles that are caused by repetitive motions. So far, the only other botulinum toxin available in the U.S. is Myobloc, which contains a slightly different form of this medication, called subtype B. Although Myobloc can work more quickly after it is injected, its effects don't last as long as Botox, so it is not widely used for cosmetic treatments.
Other brands of subtype A are in the works. Reloxin is already available in Europe, where it is known as Dysport. Reloxin may turn out to have some advantages over Botox: It may act more quickly, and in some cases its effects may last longer. However, Reloxin may spread out more after injection. This could increase certain side effects, such as drooping (known as ptosis) of the eyebrows if it is used on the forehead. Spreading out more may prove to be an advantage in other situations, such as treating crow's feet around the eyes, or in treating underarm sweating, which can require more than 15 injections on each side. At least two other injectable botulinum toxins are being studied. Xeomin, which is available in Germany, may be less likely than Botox to cause immune reactions that can lead patients to become resistant to the effects of botulinum toxins. However, because this hasn't been a common problem among patients treated with Botox for cosmetic purposes, it is not clear whether this represents a real advantage. PurTox, another type A botulinum toxin, is currently undergoing trials for treatment of frown lines as well as for other medical uses.
Perhaps most intriguing is a topical form of botulinum toxin type A under development by Revance Therapeutics, Inc. Scientists here have developed a gel which transports the active molecule across the skin and into muscles where it has its effect. Preliminary studies have shown that the gel can treat wrinkles around the eye as well as excess axillary sweating. Because it may be more difficult to precisely target a cream compared with an injectable medication, this product may turn out to be more useful for a larger area, such as excessive sweating.
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Most Expensive Zip Codes

It's been a troubling year for Florida's homeowners. Many have seen their property values plummet--and there is no bottom in sight.

Prices dropped by 20% in Miami, 18% in Tampa and 17% in Orlando over the past year, according to the National Association of Realtors, and the Sunshine State ranks at the top of the national foreclosure heap, along with Michigan and California. The troubling news on the horizon: a new round of Option ARM loans next year will reset.

But for residents of Fisher Island, Fla.,--a small community (pop. 475) of ritzy condos and sprawling homes and famous for its Vanderbilt mansion as well as its golf, tennis and yachting clubs--it's been a pretty good year. Prices on the island, which sits in the Miami Beach archipelago, rose by $525,000 over the last year, making 33109 the most expensive ZIP code in America with a median home sale of $3.85 million.


It edges out even smaller Alpine, N.J., (07620), which tied for the top spot in last year's list. Prices in Alpine increased by $340,000 last year.


They're not alone. Most of the ZIP codes on our list saw strong price appreciation. Location is behind some climbs. There just aren't that many beach-front lots in Santa Monica, Calif., (90402) or Nantucket, Mass., (02554), and as long as there's money in tech, the Los Altos (94024) and Los Gatos (95030) hills above Silicon Valley are going to command top dollar. In a year when most conventional wisdom about real estate has been proved wrong, the well-worn notion that the luxury sector is resistant to national slowing has held.



It's been a troubling year for Florida's homeowners. Many have seen their property values plummet--and there is no bottom in sight.

Prices dropped by 20% in Miami, 18% in Tampa and 17% in Orlando over the past year, according to the National Association of Realtors, and the Sunshine State ranks at the top of the national foreclosure heap, along with Michigan and California. The troubling news on the horizon: a new round of Option ARM loans next year will reset.

But for residents of Fisher Island, Fla.,--a small community (pop. 475) of ritzy condos and sprawling homes and famous for its Vanderbilt mansion as well as its golf, tennis and yachting clubs--it's been a pretty good year. Prices on the island, which sits in the Miami Beach archipelago, rose by $525,000 over the last year, making 33109 the most expensive ZIP code in America with a median home sale of $3.85 million.

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It edges out even smaller Alpine, N.J., (07620), which tied for the top spot in last year's list. Prices in Alpine increased by $340,000 last year.

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They're not alone. Most of the ZIP codes on our list saw strong price appreciation. Location is behind some climbs. There just aren't that many beach-front lots in Santa Monica, Calif., (90402) or Nantucket, Mass., (02554), and as long as there's money in tech, the Los Altos (94024) and Los Gatos (95030) hills above Silicon Valley are going to command top dollar. In a year when most conventional wisdom about real estate has been proved wrong, the well-worn notion that the luxury sector is resistant to national slowing has held.

Behind the Numbers
California owns our list, posting half of the top 500 ZIPs. There are the perennial listings like Ross, Calif., (94957) and Atherton, Calif., (94027) and the famous Beverly Hills neighborhoods of 90210, 90212 and 90211 and some cities that have been hammered by home price declines. In Rancho Santa Fe (92067), a well-heeled suburb of San Diego, home prices fell by $225,000 last year, a loss that's bigger than the average home value in America. In sum, 40% of the California ZIP codes on our list saw price declines, compared to 30% for the non-California ZIPs.

How a prolonged decline in the finance sector will affect next year's list is unknown, but there's already been slowing in prime areas around New York that depend on Wall Street cash. Amagansett (11930), on Long Island, home to mansions, sailboats and big cars, fell $375,000 this year to $1.675 million. Great Neck, N.Y., (11024)--the model for F. Scott Fitzgerald's The Great Gatsby--on the landed North Shore, dropped $310,000 last year to $1.03 million.

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The Midwest's characteristic steadiness kept many of its prime neighborhoods from fading. Lake Forest Ill., (60045) appreciated by $88,750, while Hinsdale, Ill., jumped $188,500. Of course, the cities have fairly small populations at 20,000 and 17,000, respectively, something that helped performance on this year's list as bigger ZIP codes and cities were prone to more variation.

Size plays an important role. The ZIPs on our list are not pegged to neighborhoods or populations like Congressional districts, but to a series of logistical decisions on how to distribute mail. They are the descendants of the 1943 Postal Service's Zone Improvement Plan to deliver mail more efficiently. As a result, dense cities under-perform on our list.

While New Yorkers wouldn't conflate the Upper East Side with Yorkville or parts of SoHo with TriBeCa, the Postal Service makes no distinction in either case. Consider New York Giants' owner Jonathan Tisch, who paid a record $48 million for an East 67th Street co-op in the 10065 ZIP. It's impossible to find anything in that neighborhood, near Central Park, for less than a few million dollars, yet the Upper East Side doesn't figure very well on our list.

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That's because there are also plenty of studio apartments near the 59th Street Bridge or on Second Avenue that sell for $350,000 or $450,000 in 10065. Since these areas are measured on median price, a large number of cheap sales drive down the ZIP code's ranking.

Unlike those Manhattan neighborhoods, which posted price gains for the year, many pricey neighborhoods didn't stay above the national fray. Rich areas like La Jolla, Calif., (92037) seem to have everything going for them: beaches, sunshine, beautiful homes and high-end shops, but there are scads of foreclosures lurking, as some homeowners took on more debt than they could handle.

With 158 foreclosures in La Jolla and 64 in Malibu, not to mention 57 in the prime New York City suburb of Scarsdale, you might have the opportunity to join our rich property fraternity quite soon.

And at a significant discount.


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What Is The Greatest Risk You Ever Took?

 

What is anything worth? Easy: The amount of fear, pain and suffering you are willing to risk to get it.

But of course we know the math is infinitely more complicated--especially for those suffused with fear, greed and hubris that inevitably fog the equation.

The crisis on Wall Street, now coursing like a virus throughout the broader economy, is testament to our collective innumeracy when it comes to estimating risk. Complicating matters: a vast web of impenetrable financial contracts putatively designed to "absorb" risk (and reap billions in transaction fees) by sprinkling it throughout the entire financial system. Thanks to such securitization, thousands of people moved into homes they couldn't afford. No cash? No worries--there's plastic. And the band played on.

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So the question remains: What's worth the risk? In search of illumination, we asked a slew of strivers--entrepreneurs, politicians, athletes and show-business types--what they consider to have been the riskiest moves of their lives.

Their responses were as diverse as their careers, but all support the same conclusion: The best results come to those willing to take a chance--an important reminder for entrepreneurs, financiers and political leaders as the global economy braces for even rougher weather.

Several subjects spoke of moments when their careers hung in the balance--the sputtering start-up, a challenging job offer or the decision to walk away from what they knew to pursue far grander dreams.

Some sneered at death, or at least dismemberment. Take Kit DesLauriers, the first person to ski from all seven summits. Of her descent from the top of Mount Everest, she says: "There were no safety nets, no fixed lines established, freezing winds. We had to spend an unplanned night at 26,000 feet, with very little food and water. The next day, we skied the Lhotse Face, 5,000 feet of blue ice on a 50-degree slope ... At one point, we ran out of oxygen. I kept telling myself: 'Don't sit down and die. Just keep going.' It's really easy to let your mind get a hold of you, but the journey taught me we are much more than our minds."

In 1992, Puneet Nanda, chief executive of Dr. Fresh, maker of oral care products, then based in New Delhi, decided to brave the burgeoning Russian market. "Everybody there had to pay a Mafia fee," he recalls. "These ex-KGB guys controlled everything."

One day, he continues, a new Mafia boss came by and chopped off his office manager's hand; later, thugs roughed up Nanda in his own home. Nanda fled Russia, but not the fight. Dr. Fresh products now sell in 42 different countries--including, just as of August, Russia.

Richard Jackson, chief executive of Jackson Healthcare--which provides clinician staffing, anesthesia management and heath-care IT services for U.S. hospitals--has a story for risk-taking entrepreneurs hunting for suddenly cheap assets. Two years ago, Jackson decided to acquire World Health Alternatives, a publicly traded medical-staffing firm which was then twice the size of Jackson's company.

Jackson recalls: "It was a hairy deal: [World Health] was pulling in $300 million in annual revenue but losing $1 million per month and rapidly approaching bankruptcy; its financial documents were inaccurate, the CEO had quit after some suspicious ethical behavior and the FBI was getting involved. But I believed we had the industry expertise to turn the business around. We paid $43 million for the company in 2006; last year, it took in $18 million on $220 million in sales. It was a huge risk--and an even bigger success."

Michael Chasen, co-founder of Blackboard (nasdaq: BBBB - news - people ), an education technology company, went so far as to jeopardize his new marriage. Despite making nice coin at KPMG, Chasen and college buddy Matthew Pittinsky decided to start their own company making software to facilitate instruction at schools that were outfitting fully Internet-wired classrooms and dormitories.

"The biggest risk was telling my fiancé one month before our wedding that I was going to quit my high-paying job to gamble on a 'big idea' with my old college roommate," says Chasen. "Not exactly what she had signed up for." (Happy ending: They still tied the knot. "Risk averted," he adds.)

Still others we spoke with considered smaller, even mundane challenges to carry enormous risk. Case in point: Brian Binnie, whom Forbes.com interviewed for the first iteration of this article in 2007. Binnie piloted the craft that rocketed 69 miles above the earth in pursuit of the $10 million Ansari X Prize, funded by the likes of First USA Bank, a unit of JPMorgan Chase (nyse: JPM - news - people ), and author Tom Clancy.

Ironically, the sky-scraping aviator's greatest risk was among the most down-to-earth: speaking in front of a public audience. "The choice between a poke in the eye or the opportunity for public speaking sends me into serious deliberation," admitted Binnie. (Still, an invitation to appear on The Late Show with David Letterman proved too tasty to pass up.)

Who better to assess risk then a guy who gets paid big bucks to do just that? When asked last year about his greatest risk, gold-plated venture capitalist Tim Draper, co-founder of Draper Fisher Jurvetson, recalled not one of his sizable bets on a promising (but by no means proven) young company; rather, he mentioned the time he mustered the courage to board an unknown, unsaddled horse.

"I don't remember all the risks I have taken, since if they worked out, they were no big deal," said Draper.

That's one way of looking at it.




 

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O.J. Simpson is handcuffed after a verdict of guilty on all counts was read following his trial at the Clark County Regional Justice Center in Las Vegas on Friday, Oct. 3, 2008. The verdict comes 13 years to the day after Simpson was acquitted of murdering his ex-wife Nicole Brown Simpson and Ron Goldman. (Photo/Steve Marcus, Pool)
O.J. Simpson is handcuffed after a verdict of guilty on all counts was read following his trial at the Clark County Regional Justice Center in Las Vegas on Friday, Oct. 3, 2008. The verdict comes 13 years to the day after Simpson was acquitted of murdering his ex-wife Nicole Brown Simpson and Ron Goldman. (Photo/Steve Marcus, Pool) (Steve Marcus - AP)

LAS VEGAS -- Thirteen years to the day after being acquitted of killing his wife and her friend in Los Angeles, O.J. Simpson was found guilty of robbing two sports-memorabilia dealers at gunpoint in a Las Vegas hotel room.

The 61-year-old former football star was convicted of all 12 counts late Friday after jurors deliberated for more than 13 hours. He released a heavy sigh as the charges were read and was immediately taken into custody.

Simpson, who went from American sports idol to celebrity-in-exile after his murder acquittal, could spend the rest of his life in prison.

Many people considered the four-week trial justice delayed. Simpson was cleared in 1995 of murdering his ex-wife, Nicole Brown Simpson, and her friend, Ronald Goldman, in one of the most sensational trials of the 20th century, but was later found liable for the deaths in a civil case.

"This was just payback," Simpson lawyer Yale Galanter said Saturday. "They were on an agenda."

Galanter said he plans to appeal.

The Hall of Fame football star was convicted of kidnapping, armed robbery and 10 other charges for gathering up five men a year ago and storming into a room at a hotel-casino, where the group seized several game balls, plaques and photos. Prosecutors said two of the men with him were armed; one of them said Simpson asked him to bring a gun.

Simpson's co-defendant, Clarence "C.J." Stewart, 54, also was found guilty on all charges and taken into custody.

Simpson showed little emotion as officers handcuffed him and walked him out of the courtroom. His sister, Carmelita Durio, sobbed behind him in the arms of Simpson's friend, Tom Scotto, who said "I love you" as Simpson passed by. As spectators left the courtroom, Durio collapsed.

Jurors made no eye contact with the defendants as they entered the courtroom. They declined to answer questions after the verdict was read.

Galanter said his client had expected the outcome, and in a courthouse conversation with an Associated Press reporter on Thursday, Simpson had implied as much.

Simpson said he was "afraid that I won't get to go to my kids' college graduations after I managed to get them through college."



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OPRAH.com) -- In a new study conducted by marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman, it's estimated that one in 2.7 men will cheat -- and most of their wives will never know about it.
M. Gary Neuman tells Oprah Winfrey there are unobtrusive ways of finding out if a husband is cheating.

M. Gary Neuman tells Oprah Winfrey there are unobtrusive ways of finding out if a husband is cheating.

Gary documented these findings -- and many others -- in a groundbreaking new book. To write "The Truth About Cheating," Gary surveyed hundreds of faithful and cheating husbands to uncover the real reason some men stray.

Gary says his work as a marriage counselor inspired him to write this book. "For over 20 years, [I've been] living along with women, counseling, seeing the devastation and how overwhelming it is when they are cheated on and what it subsequently does to the children and the family," he says.

"You want to help children of divorce? I said, 'Well, let's get really down and dirty and find out what we can do to save marriages and make them better.'"

Although Gary discusses how wives of cheaters can factor into affairs, he says he wrote the book to empower women. Oprah.com: Is he cheating on you?

"It's not about blaming the wife. It can't be. I mean, cheating is ridiculous. It's wrong. And you can't justify it," Gary says. "My book is about one thing. It's really about empowering women. If I can give you knowledge that says that I could have proof that if you do certain things, you can lead your relationship to a better place, that will be much better for you as well because it's not just about stopping tragedy. It's about building a much more mutually beneficial relationship."

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What's the number one reason men cheat? Ninety-two percent of men said it wasn't primarily about the sex.

"The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures," Gary says. "Men are very emotional beings. They just don't look like that. Or they don't seem like that. Or they don't tell you that."

Josh says he cheated on his wife, Jennifer, because he felt underappreciated at home and started feeling insecure. "That insecurity was really the catalyst," he says. "I didn't feel comfortable going to the one person in the world I should be going to, which is my wife." Oprah.com: The signs you could be missing

With daily worries like bills, children and chores, Gary says it's easy for couples to drift away from appreciating one another like they should. Gary says the other woman often makes the man feel better about himself.

"[She] makes them feel different. Makes them feel appreciated, admired," he says. "Men look strong, look powerful and capable. But on the inside, they're insecure like everybody else. They're searching and looking for somebody to build them up to make them feel valued."

Men have a winning mentality, Gary says. Just think about how the men in your life act while watching their favorite sports teams.

"They love to win," Gary says. "Does he have ownership in the team? It looks like that. But as long as they're in the game, even to the very end, they'll watch. Once it's a blowout and they know their team can't win, television goes off. And what a lot of men will say to me through this research is, 'I just felt like I couldn't win.' Now they might not have been great guys to live with, I'm not saying it's her fault, again. But if you want to secure your relationship and understand and have the knowledge of men, make them feel like they're winning with the things that they do for you."

Don't be afraid to praise your partner or tell him that you appreciate what he does, Gary says. "We get married because we want one person in the world to really think we're wonderful for doing all the things that we do. We all want the same thing," he says. "And the more we give it, the more we get it in return."

Is cheater choosing prettier women?

How often does a man cheat on his wife with a woman who's more attractive? Not as often as you may think. Gary found that 88 percent of the men surveyed said the other women were no better looking or in no better shape than their own wives. Oprah.com: The "other woman" speaks out

For the first five years of his marriage, AJ says things were rocky with his wife, Janet. "We got to the point where we were really living in separate parts of the house. I went downstairs every time I came home from work," he says. "So when somebody else took an interest in me and was interested in what I did, interested in my job, interested in what I wear -- you name it -- before I had the self-awareness to understand my vulnerabilities and take responsibility, I liked it -- even though it was the worst decision of my life."

Every couple will eventually face certain life changes, but Gary urges couples to think back about the interest they took in one another when they were first dating or newlyweds.

"Everybody deserves that. Everybody wants that," Gary says. "Because it's not about the sex, what everyone's been made to believe. Anybody, no matter how you look, can be admiring and kind and warm and give you that extra little pump and that extra kindness and hang on your words."

How often do men confess to cheating on before being caught?

Only 7 percent of men who strayed told their wives without being asked. Fifty-five percent of men in Gary's study have either not told their wives or lied after being confronted with hard evidence. "I kind of tell people, 'If you're going to wait for him to come tell you, go buy a lottery ticket, because you like playing against the odds,'" Gary says.

In 2004, Colleen discovered that her husband, Scott, was having an affair and says she caught him several times. The first time she says she caught Scott was on Father's Day when the other woman called the house.

"I was standing there right with him in the kitchen so I heard her, and she said, 'Are you okay? Are you okay? Hang in there,'" Colleen says. "He tried to tell me it was a dispatcher from work and that was very suspicious."

Colleen says Scott's affair was painful, but the lying was worse. "When you've been married for so long and you trust someone so much and they look you right in the eye and they're telling you a lie, it takes a lot to move past that," she says.

Gary says Colleen's desire to believe her husband is common. "The problem is that that's the moment where every woman has to look at her husband and say, simply, 'Look. The fact [is] that I think you may be cheating. I'll trust you at your word. I've got no choice. But there's something wrong with us.'" Gary says.

Although he felt connected to his wife, Scott says he started to feel insecure when Colleen's mother passed away.

"I felt powerless; I didn't feel able to talk with my wife," he says. "Looking back on it, I felt that it transferred onto our relationship when it really didn't. She was really looking for me to be that strong point and I kind of walked away from it because of the insecurities I was feeling and the challenges we were facing in our marriage at the time and my abilities to be able to love her as a husband."

Just as the little things are often signs that something is wrong, the little things can also help rebuild relationships, Gary says. For example, if a man tries to make breakfast and burns the toast, Gary suggests staying positive.

"[Men] want to feel like they're pleasing their wives... When you give him the message mainly that you screwed up, then believe it or not, it makes him feel insecure. [He thinks,] 'I can't win,'" Gary says. "Engender the good feeling of the trying and the effort that he's made. That's where the love really is."

Katherine calls in to ask Gary about her suspicions that her husband cheated on her.

"One night I saw his phone on the counter and I looked at it, and it somehow came right to this picture of him naked and aroused from the waist down... I asked him about it. He denied anything. He said he took the picture to send to me, which I know is a big fat lie because I wouldn't approve. And so that was one thing. And then I've also seen e-mails from women from Russia, wanting him to be their lovers."

Katherine says she has tried tracking him with a GPS unit and installing spyware on his computer, but he found both and disabled them. Gary says Katherine should try getting him to submit to a lie detector test.

"Obviously we all think here that he's up to no good," Gary says. "The question, Katherine, that you have to face, and this is hard for a woman: Do you want to know?"

Gary says the truth can be very difficult for women to face because it could be the end of their marriage and the beginning of a painful divorce. Gary says the cheater's lying is really the ultimate betrayal.

"I say to men, look, do yourself a bigger favor, be honest with your wife when you're just beginning to get interested in somebody else. Sit down with your wife and say, 'Listen. Something is wrong,'" Gary says.

If you suspect your husband is cheating, Gary says there are unobtrusive ways of investigating, such as looking at cell phone records or computer histories, or try using an automobile GPS tracking device if necessary. But first, find out if GPS tracking is legal in your state.

Brian and Anne say they never thought they would have to deal with an affair in their marriage. Anne says Brian was never gone in the evenings, they were emotionally connected, and they had sex every night. Yet Brian was secretly having an affair on his lunch hour at work.

"I was always under the belief that affairs happened to people in either bad marriages or where there's no sex going on. And because we had both of those things, I was really unaware of how easily I could slip into an affair," Brian says.

Brian says he started having his affair with a person who at first was just a friend. "And then you develop some sort of a connection with them through some sort of common interest," he says. "I didn't choose to go have an affair. It just sort of happened."

Gary says Brian is right that most men meet the person they have an affair with in one of two places -- at work or through a hobby. "It begins as an emotional relationship. There's a friendship that develops. It's not just looking for the sex," Gary says. "We all have this picture of cheaters as the bad guys. They're horrible, rotten, not nice. No, they can be nice people who get lost, who do the wrong thing -- and they can be your husband."

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O.J. Simpson found guilty on all counts

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LAS VEGAS, Nevada (CNN) -- Former gridiron great O.J. Simpson was found guilty of all 12 counts in the armed robbery of two sports memorabilia dealers at a Las Vegas, Nevada, casino hotel last year.

The jury reached the verdict 13 years to the day O.J. Simpson was acquitted of two murders.

The jury reached the verdict 13 years to the day O.J. Simpson was acquitted of two murders.

Simpson, 61, and his co-defendant Clarence "C.J." Stewart, 54, were charged with a dozen offenses stemming from the alleged sports memorabilia heist.

Stewart was also found guilty of the same charges as Simpson. Both men will likely spend the rest of their lives in prison.

Simpson arrived at the Clark County Justice Center at around 10:50 p.m. (1:50 a.m. Saturday ET). He told CNN's Ted Rowlands on the phone before the verdict was read that he was "apprehensive."

The jury of nine men and three women, none of them African-American, began deliberations Friday after hearing from 22 witnesses over 12 days of testimony. Chief among the witnesses were seven of the nine people inside Room 1203 of the Palace Station Hotel and Casino for the September 13, 2007 confrontation.

The evidence included testimony from the two dealers, four co-defendants who cut plea deals and cooperated with prosecutors and hours of often-profane, crackling, secretly recorded audiotapes.

Prosecutors alleged that the men, led by Simpson, burst into the room, flashed a gun and threatened memorabilia dealers Bruce Fromong and Al Beardsley.

The men then filled two pillowcases with Simpson trinkets, signed Pete Rose baseballs and Joe Montana lithographs. Simpson's defense attorneys maintained their client was merely trying to retrieve personal photographs and other mementos that belonged to him.

Neither Simpson nor his co-defendant Clarence "C.J." Stewart testified during the trial. Instead, their attorneys savaged the motives of the other witnesses.

Simpson's lawyer, Yale Galanter, said Simpson was a target of investigators from the very beginning. The case "has taken on a life of its own because of Mr. Simpson's involvement," he added.

"Every cooperator, every person who had a gun, every person who had an ulterior motive, every person who signed a book deal, every person who got paid money, the police, the district attorney's office is only interested in one thing: Mr. Simpson," Galanter said.

Stewart was characterized by his lawyer, E. Brent Bryson, as the trial's forgotten player.

The most compelling evidence for all sides came from the audiotapes.

For the prosecution, conversations taped by collectibles middleman Thomas Riccio took jurors from the poolside planning to the profanity-laced hotel room confrontation.

Riccio, a chatty sports memorabilia dealer and convicted felon made the rounds on network news shows immediately after the hotel room fracas. He admitted on the stand that various media outlets paid him $210,000.

The crucial evidence for the defense came from two audiotapes, a voicemail from a key prosecution witness who seemed willing to tailor his testimony for a price and tapes of Las Vegas police officers laughing and joking about Simpson's Los Angeles acquittal following his arrest.

Galanter told jurors the surreptitious recording captured police investigators in the hotel room after the confrontation. "They're making jokes. They're saying things like, 'We're gonna get him,"' he said.

Police were called to the hotel around 8 p.m. on September 13, 2007. Shortly after midnight, detectives visited Simpson at his hotel. He told them he was just trying to recover property that had been stolen from him.

"Why are they not in trouble?" Simpson asked about memorabilia dealers Beardsley and Fromong, according to police reports filed in the case. Both men testified for the prosecution, although Beardsley said Simpson did nothing wrong and was "set up" by the "rat Riccio."

Riccio, who was not charged in the case, testified that he didn't think twice about recording Simpson when asked for help retrieving what Simpson claimed was his property.

All four of the former co-defendants testified for the prosecution. Two of them tied Simpson to guns and threats.

Michael McClinton testified that Simpson instructed him to bring a gun and "look menacing" before they entered the hotel room.

Simpson has told police he had no idea the people with him were armed.

The testimony was laced with innuendo about unsavory activities by several of the witnesses, many with criminal records. Riccio and Beardsley feuded openly, calling each other names and questioning each other's sanity.

Aware that loose cannons on the stand could blow the case into mistrial purgatory, Judge Jackie Glass refused to let David Cook testify. Cook, an attorney for the family of Ronald Goldman, searches for Simpson assets to satisfy the $33.5 million civil judgment against the former NFL star.

Simpson was acquitted of killing his ex-wife, Nicole Brown Simpson, and Goldman in a trial that ended 13 years to the day before the Las Vegas jury began its deliberations.

Regarding Glass' ruling, Cook told CNN: "If you read between the lines, I think she thought my appearance would bring up the Ghost of Christmas Past."

The case featured 19 male witnesses and just three cameo appearances from women. Swagger and testosterone ran rampant with hard stares from the witness stand.

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Arnelle Simpson, left, daughter of O.J.Simpson, and Carmelita Durio, sister of O.J. Simpson listen during closing arguments in O.J.'s trial at the Clark County Regional Justice Center Thursday, Oct. 2, 2008, in Las Vegas. O.J. Simpson is charged with twelve counts including kidnapping, armed robbery and assault with a deadly weapon stemming from an alleged incident involving the theft of his sports memorabilia. (AP Photo/Jae C. Hong, Pool)
Arnelle Simpson, left, daughter of O.J.Simpson, and Carmelita Durio, sister of O.J. Simpson listen during closing arguments in O.J.'s trial at the Clark County Regional Justice Center Thursday, Oct. 2, 2008, in Las Vegas. O.J. Simpson is charged with twelve counts including kidnapping, armed robbery and assault with a deadly weapon stemming from an alleged incident involving the theft of his sports memorabilia. (AP Photo/Jae C. Hong, Pool) (Jae C. Hong - AP)

LAS VEGAS -- A court official says the jury has reached a decision in the O.J. Simpson armed robbery and kidnapping trial in Las Vegas.

Court spokesman Michael Sommermeyer says the verdict will be read around 10 p.m. in Clark County District Court.

The 61-year-old former football star and a golfing buddy, 54-year-old Clarence "C.J." Stewart, were tried on 12 criminal charges in the alleged gunpoint robbery of two sports memorabilia dealers in a casino hotel room last year.

Each faces five years to life in prison if convicted of kidnapping, or mandatory prison time if convicted of armed robbery.

The jury of nine women and three men deliberated more than 13 hours Friday.

THIS IS A BREAKING NEWS UPDATE. Check back soon for further information. AP's earlier story is below.

LAS VEGAS (AP) _ Jurors in the O.J. Simpson trial worked into the night Friday deliberating the fate of the former football star and a co-defendant, accused of robbing two sports memorabilia dealers at gunpoint in a casino hotel room.

With no verdict reached after 11 hours, lawyers for both defendants arrived at the courthouse about 7:30 p.m. but didn't meet with the judge.

"They didn't tell us there's a verdict," said Simpson lawyer Yale Galanter, adding that the defense teams spent the day a nearby law office. "It's late. We just came over to try to figure out scheduling."

The 61-year-old former football star and a golfing buddy, Clarence "C.J." Stewart each face five years to life in prison if convicted of kidnapping, or mandatory prison time if convicted of armed robbery. They've pleaded not guilty to 12 charges, including conspiracy, coercion and assault with a deadly weapon.

Deliberations began 13 years to the day after Simpson was acquitted of killing his ex-wife, Nicole Brown Simpson, and her friend, Ronald Goldman, in Los Angeles.

The Clark County jury heard 12 days of testimony, capped by prosecutors' arguments Thursday that the Las Vegas case had its roots in the 1994 slayings.




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The number of illegal immigrants entering the United States each year has dropped substantially since the first half of this decade, according to a study released today by the Pew Hispanic Center. A sluggish economy and stepped up enforcement of immigration laws could be behind the decline.

The study found that the number of illegal immigrants entering the United States each year has dropped from an average of 800,000 per year between 2000 and 2004 to 500,000 per year between 2005 and 2008.

By contrast, the inflow of immigrants who are legal permanent residents has remained relatively steady at about 650,000 per year, exceeding the number of illegal immigrant arrivals for the first time in a decade.

Despite the slowing growth rate of the illegal immigrant population, the study's authors estimated that its size has increased by 40 percent over the past decade, from an estimated 8.4 million in 2000 to an 11.9 million in March. Illegal immigrants now make up about 4 percent of the U.S. population and about 30 percent of the nation's foreign-born population. About four out of five illegal immigrants come from Latin American countries, mainly Mexico, and more than four out of 10, or 5.3 million, arrived since the start of the decade.

The U.S. Census Bureau does not ask people their immigration status. So the authors of the Pew report estimated the number of illegal immigrants by finding the difference between the number of foreigners who can be accounted for through such records as visas, permanent residency permits and naturalizations and the total number tallied by the census.

The study's authors cautioned that their estimates could not explain the drop in the number of illegal immigrants entering the country. However, they pointed to a number of possible causes. For instance, a slowdown in U.S. economic growth has had a disproportionate impact on foreign-born Latinos workers at the same time that economic growth in Mexico and other Latin American nations has been stable. The heightened focus on enforcement of immigration law has also generated concern among many Hispanics, according to another recent study by the Pew Hispanic Center, a nonpartisan research organization based in Washington.


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(By Paul Sakuma -- Associated Press)

Count this as another busted myth of modern times: In family life, the husband always wields the television remote.

Lately, the wife is just as likely to be changing the channels.

A poll released yesterday by the Pew Research Center showed that 21st century couples share decision making in many aspects of American family life, and nowhere is that equity greater than in front of the household television. The poll found that 27 percent of people say women control the remote; 26 percent say that men do; and 25 percent say the couple decides together.

This change in everyday life could be one small sign of a larger social shift in the last generation, experts say.

"I think the big story over time is the rise in shared decision making," said Andrew Cherlin, a professor of sociology and public policy at Johns Hopkins University. "It's not the same as the '50s and '60s, where 'father knew best.' "

This was reflected in interviews yesterday with men and women across the region, many of whom noted that family life brings together a combination of lead-taking, choice-making and responsibilities. With much to do and little time, some things are divvied up, and others are shared, they said.

The poll includes the answers of 1,260 people who were married or living together as a couple; it has a margin of error of 3 percent. Overall, the poll reports that in 43 percent of couples, women had the most to say in a combination of four categories: decision making in finances, weekend activities, television choices and big-ticket purchases. Decision making was divided equally for 31 percent of couples, and men took the lead in 26 percent of couples.

Matt McCoy, 55, a machinist and father of two from Derwood, noted that his wife of 32 years keeps track of the checkbook, pays the bills and "did pick out everything for her kitchen." Still, he said, "other things we have decided together."

When it comes to television, though, there are differences. He likes sporting events and old movies. She likes "American Idol" and "Dateline," he said. Often, he will offer to relocate to the bedroom television when his wife wants to watch a program in the family room.


"I think we solve that problem with two televisions," McCoy said.

In Falls Church, Kristin Rodriguez, 42, said that with three young children and a part-time job as a social worker, she tends to have more say in choices of what to spend money on and where to spend weekend days as a family. Her husband works full time at an office.

When he comes home, he often defers to her and the children about television choices, though it helps that they have TiVo to record racing events and football games that he prefers. "I think he's learned to wait for us all to go to bed, and then he can watch what he wants," she said.

In prime-time hours, she handles the remote.

Pew researchers said that the television results could be affected by the fact that families have multiple televisions. They noted that a study by Nielsen Media Research showed that American homes, on average, included more televisions than people.

Cherlin, the Hopkins professor, said he was impressed that so many people who were polled said that their household decisions were jointly made, even though they were not given that choice as an answer to the poll's questions. They volunteered it.

"I'm struck by the fact that, overall, 31 percent of the people said the decision was shared, even though that option was not read to them," he said. "Clearly, there is more sharing than there used to be. There is more variation in who makes the decisions and less of a sense that the home is the man's castle."

One of the most notable results of the poll, he said, was on joint control of household finances. Among men, 37 percent said they controlled finances, with 30 percent saying their partner did and 28 percent saying finances were handled jointly. "I think that's a big change from 50 years ago," Cherlin said. Back then, he said, "some wives didn't even know what their husbands were making." Less surprising, he said, was that women took charge of weekend activities and major household purchases, many of which he said are related to home life.

Krista Atteberry, 41, a Hyattsville mother and city council member, said she sees many women take the initiative and step up as "household managers" amid the complexities of family life, but adds: "I wouldn't say decision maker. I would say decision guider."

But when it comes to television, Atteberry admits that she has turned her husband into a fan of "Project Runway." Many of her female friends also do not easily relinquish control of the remote, she said.

"I think women are just like, 'This is what I want to watch tonight. Give me a break.' "

Whatever a couple's approach to decision making, the Pew poll showed that a strong majority of people -- 80 percent -- are satisfied with their family situation.

For Pat Attridge, 51, a lawyer and father of four who lives in Ashton, that means a shared approach, mostly. But he noted, with some amusement, that there seemed to be one important omission in all of the talk about how decisions are made.

The poll, he said, "doesn't have a category for kids." In his experience, he said, "that's who call the shots."

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